You’ve heard people say in movies (or maybe even in real life) that they’ve got nothing to lose.

Usually, it’s right before a fight is about to break out.

Or someone embarrasses themselves trying to provoke a fight with someone else who clearly isn’t in the mood to tussle.

But it’s a universal truth acknowledged and accepted.

Successful people can’t really afford not to have emotional intelligence. 

You’ve got to have it if you want to keep what you’ve worked too hard to get.

I recently saw a Facebook reel about it.

Don’t ask me what entrepreneur it was giving advice, but it was some guy talking about how your mind has to be bigger than your emotions — they have to be, he insisted.

And I find that to be true.

When I think about all the situations that have tested me in life, I realize now that had I responded in different ways, I might’ve achieved success a lot sooner.

It’s a tough pill to swallow. 

But it’s something I’m glad I learned…better late than never, right? Some people never get there.

Or they do…and then they lose what they worked so hard for — all because they couldn’t keep their cool. They had no emotional intelligence.

And emotional intelligence is crucial if you want to be successful.

Here’s why.

1. You’re Never Not Gonna Have Bad Days

You’re never going to not have bad days. I say it again because it bears repeating.

I used to have this idea in my head that once I got rich and successful, that I wouldn’t have problems anymore. Or that I could at least throw money at it.

But not every problem is one that can be solved with money.

That’s why you must learn emotional intelligence. There’s no way around it (believe me, I checked).

You’ve just got to do the work and try to work on having high emotional intelligence.

And being able to deal with things that come your way in life (and they will) in an emotionally healthy way can make all the difference in your quality of life.

Instead of sulking every time a bad thing happens, you’ll be able to keep your head held high knowing that this is just a temporary setback — not a major one that’ll derail your life.

And you can keep going on about your day with a smile on your face.

Rather than letting the bad news bring your whole day down and taking your bad mood out on others around you.

You’d be surprised at how much a change in perspective can change your whole life.

One of my favorite quotes that I like to look at every now and then is: “Happiness is about perspective — not perfection.”

Change the way you think about things and you can change your whole life — how you feel moving through the world.

It’s definitely made a difference for me.

2. You’re ALWAYS Going to Deal with Difficult People

It’s just a nasty fact of life.

Difficult people are everywhere.

I used to think I could escape them by not working in a traditional office.

But it turns out, they’re everywhere. (*😱*)

Whether they’re a difficult client, a rude person in a store, or a driver with road rage, there’s no escaping difficult people. 

A better approach is to take the high road, as difficult as that might seem.

What helped me to see things a little differently is reading books like The Power of Now and The Four Agreements. Both are less than $10 so go grab them and get reading!

3. You’re Going to Deal with Major Life Crises

In addition to bad days, you’ll also have to go through major life crises. It’s just a sucky part of life we all have to deal with. 

You might not go through the same things as your family and friends because we all have different life paths and different lessons to learn.

But we all have to face things that are going to challenge us and test our faith. 

And dealing with these things will make it a lot easier with emotional intelligence and a better understanding of life in general.

4. You’re Going to Go Through Cycles of Ups and Downs

You may have heard that we all go through seasons or cycles in life. We have our ups and downs.

And while we might see these “downs” as bad, they’re meant to teach us something, meant to help us grow.

A person with a high level of emotional intelligence knows not to give these “down” parts of the cycle too much energy because, in the words of a church song I grew up listening to, “Trouble don’t last always.”

Once you realize this, it will make it a lot easier to deal with the “down” parts of the cycle as you encounter them. 

Don’t get me wrong. You’ll still feel angry and sad, and a host of other emotions, but you won’t let them get you down (not for too long anyway).

You’ll cry for a moment, but you’ll be able to dust yourself off, pick yourself up, and keep moving forward.

5. Growth Sometimes Requires Pain

If we never felt emotional pain, we wouldn’t realize something needs to change. And we would stay stagnant in our ways.

It’s something a lot of people don’t want to think about or acknowledge, but our pain helps us change and grow.

Just think about the painful things you might’ve experienced in life. 

If you’ve ever been mistreated in a relationship, it taught you what to accept and what not to accept in the next relationship.

Sometimes painful lessons are blessings in disguise. 

Because if you never left painful, negative situations, you wouldn’t find anything better. You wouldn’t ever find what you truly deserve.

Are you emotionally intelligent? Did any of this resonate with you? Let me know in the comments.

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Founder at The Ultimate Freelance Guide and author of The Ultimate Guide to Using Blogging to Boost Engagement and Drive Sales and Copywriting vs. Content Marketing: A Guide to Understanding the Difference Between the Two and Using Both for Maximum Engagement. Her work has been featured at USA Today and Small Biz Daily and she's written for clients like Columbia, LifeLock, eSurance, Anthem Health, USAA,, Princess Cruises, and Rodan + Fields, among others.

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